Are you trying to teach your kids about money? You can try Barrack Obama and his wife’s tips on teaching children about money. Just like other parents, Obama and his wife also set rules for their kids. One of them is about money giving. In a magazine interview Obama and his wife Michelle revealed that one of their steadfast house rules is not giving Christmas or Birthday presents to their kids, Malia, 10, and Sasha, 7. “They spend ‘hundreds’ on birthday slumber parties and we want to teach some limits. Santa Claus is still permitted to deliver seasonal gifts however,” they said. The girls are also given an allowance of just $1 a week for performing household chores. Those chores include making their own bed, setting and clearing the dinner table, and putting themselves to bed by 8.30 pm. So, do you think it will work for your kids? Just try it with them!

Source: www.telegraph.co.uk, People magazine

In previous part, we have talked about children with O and A blood types, their personality, and how to “manage” them. Now, it’s time for us to talk about children with B and AB blood types and how parents should raise them. So, how are they like?

The Ignorant “B’

Children with B blood type tend to be sweet but can be wild too. They are also hardworker, stubborn, joyful, realistic, a little bit ignorant and irresponsible. If you wanna teach them discipline, you really need to guide them. They are also flexible but tend to ignore what people say about them and like to supress their anger. That’s why they need to learn more about rules and norms. For creativity, actually they are creative enough but they really need stimulation from their parents to explore their creativity and talents. By the way, they have poor body balance that make them have difficulty in balancing their body.

Tips for their parents:

1. You should give clear and flexible rules for them
2. Know their creativity and talents and give them stimulation so that they can show their potential
3. Guide them to manage their activities effectively
4. For physical activities, direct them to body balancing activities, like running or jumping.
5. Teach them to be more concerned about norm and rules
6. Give plenty of time to talk and share with them.

The Doubtful “AB”

“AB” children tend to be calm, controlable, and rasional. But, the negative side is they tend to be indecisive. Even though they look not emotional, they are doubtful. When they make decision by themselves, they often regret that decision. They also like to supress their feeling, tend to be passive because they are afraid if what they do is wrong. Because they are easily influenced by their surroundings, parents should avoid them from bad influence.

Tips for the parents:

1. Teach them to solve their problems by themselves
2. Teach them to discuss their choices, ask them their reason to choose those choices and what choice that they choose
3. Don’t give too strict rules. Ask them to make rules together with you.
4. Let them choose clothes that they want to wear by themselves
5. Give them a good example at home if you don’t want them do something bad
6. Direct them to group activities, but not competitive ones
7. Teach them to be more independent
8. Give opportunities that can make them to respect themselves

So, does that description match with your child?

“Actually, there is no scientific reasearch yet which proves the relationship between blood type and children personality,” says Tisna Chandra, M.Si, child psychologist and owner of Spectrum Treatment and Education Centre, Jakarta, Indonesia. But, some books mention that there is relationship between blood type and children characters and raising children. In Japan, personality analysis by blood type is known as Ketsuekigata, and becomes part of popular Japanese Culture. So, are you interested to know more what your children personality based on their blood type is and how you should raise them based on that? Let’s start with O and A blood types first.

The Energetic “O”

Children with O blood type are vert energetic and full of emotions. They always need to use their exessive energy and emotion. They are also adaptive, optimistic, perfectionist, and can easily accept others’ opinions and very negotiable. Whatever we ask them to do, they will do it right away. They have a strong leadership quality and high creativity. One thing you must know from them is they don’t like monotonous things and have high need for achievement. They also really care with what others say about them. That’s why what people say to them will affect them so much. Unfortunately, they can get stressed easily and tend to “play” with risks. May be that’s why the energetic O children also have tendency to be hyperactive and get anger easily. But, of course not all of them are like that.

Guides To Raising Your Energetic O Children

Here are some tips for those who have energetic O child:

1. Give him or her opportunity to be a leader. For example, in family meeting to decide what television brand your family will buy, he or she can lead the meeting.
2. Teach them to make plan for their daily activities
3. Don’t give him or her too many extra curricular activities
4. Teach him or her to think positively and manage his or her anger effectively
5. Because your child is very adaptive, you need to avoid them from negative influences such as drugs and free sex.

The Fussy “A”

Children with A blood type tend to be fussy and always exagerate things, and have complicated mind map. They are also a little bit rigid, fragile, very detailed and care about themselves exessively. What people think not really important is very very important to them. They tend to be perfectionist, easily get panic, worry about many things, and not easy to be relaxed. The positive sides of them are passionate, peaceful, sensitive, and creative.

Tips for parents:

1. Give your children relaxing activities
2. Tell them that they don’t have to do everything perfectly
3. For their meals schedule, seperate it into 4 or 5 meal times with small portions
4. Manage their “television time”
5. Avoid using bad words or high voice when you give them advice

What do you think? Does it match with your kids? For B and AB blood types, we will discuss them later on the next part of this article. (to be continued)

Parenting children is not as easy as you think. Our parenting style we use in raising our children will affect their behavior and personality in the future. So, what kind of parenting style do you use for them? Is it right for them? Do you “play” as a good guy or bad guy for them? Let’s find out!

Diana Baumrind identified four different types of parenting styles that commonly practiced by most parents. Here are those four parenting styles that will make you know whether you are a good guy or not in raising your kids:

1.    Authoritarian parenting

You are an authoritarian parent if you expect compliance, conformity from your children for your rules and directions. The problem comes out from this parenting style when you change the rules. It can make your children get confused about what you expect from them. Don’t be surprised if they tend to be afraid with their parents. That’s because the threatening situation you have created at your home. As the response to that situation, they won’t have good self confidence and tend to withdraw from their friends. In other side, they also can grow into a rebellious child, getting involved with alcohol, drugs, and premarital sex.

2.    Permissive parenting

Are you a warm and loving parent who never demands your children to do their homework from their school and never “punish” them for their bad behavior? If yes, definitely you’re a permissive parent! Especially if you give everything they want from you. Children with permissive parent usually will have emotional problems because they never learn how to obey rules. They tend to be impulsive irresponsible, and tend to blame others for what they do or what happened to them. As a result, be ready to be their “good mom” till then even though they already have spouse and children!

3.    Neglectful Parenting

If the permissive parents tend to love their children too much, the neglectful ones neglect their children emotionally. You are a neglectful parent if you never care whether your children have done the homework, has eaten their meals or not. The children from neglectful parents often have problems with making friends, but their parents never realize until it become worse and worse.

4.    Authoritative Parenting

This is the ideal one. Authoritative parents have realistic expectations of their children and give opportunity to their child to discuss those expectations. Their rules are fair and clear and also teach the children how to make a decision, the cause and effect of everything they do. The children from the parents with this style will grow as happy, successful children and generous with their friends at home and school. As the result, their friends respect and like them very much.

So, what are you? A good guy or bad guy? Especially for your teens, “playing” as good guy by becoming an authoritative parent for them is really important. Don’t let them be out of control and make you feel like the most desperate parent in the world! Be a good guy for them!